if the system youve put in place to normalize asking for/giving pronouns doesn't leave a quiet, subtle option for people to abstain, you have made the space u r curating absolutely miserable for questioning and closeted trans ppl
"ugh cis guys don't ever put their pronouns/love to jokingly say any" not to dismiss cisnormative cultures and the damage done by all the cis guys who really don't give a shit about pronouns but there is actually a nonzero chance you're harassing a trans woman